Experts On What To Do With Stress

Stress is the body’s natural method of reacting to a perceived challenge. It can be quite beneficial, for example, the additional blood that comes from a rapidly beating heart can help your muscles gain the fuel needed to run faster when you’re being chased by a tiger.

In years gone by, stress as a response to a challenge was not a sustained demand on our systems. It was an essential survival tool, accessed when necessary, and then let go.

Even now stress can be a great motivator, helping us finish projects on a deadline or perform well when the pressure is on. Unfortunately, far too few of us are well versed in harnessing the upside of stress and then letting it go.

For most of us, the reality of modern life is that perceived challenges are sustained over much longer periods of time. They’re less physical, more often triggered by relationships, finances and work.

We don’t run from the tiger and then let the stress go. We allow stress to hijack us because the threat isn’t quite so tangible. Unresolved mental and emotional challenges stack up, leaving us wound up, tense and overloaded on stress.

Left unchecked, stress can affect how we feel, how we think, how we behave and even how our bodies function. It can be quite harmful, both physically and mentally, if we allow it to become a normal state.

Sadly, that is happening more and more. Stress has become an epidemic.

Learning to release stress, or alternatively how not to allow pressure to bother us in the first place, is a critical life skill.

Here’s what eight influential thinkers in the human potential field had to say about stress and what to do with it…


Tony Robbins

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Tony says there are five keys to breaking through stress.

  1. Feed your mind
  2. Strengthen your body
  3. Find a mission bigger than you
  4. Find a role model
  5. Help someone worse off than you

He adds…

“The thing that makes us unhappy is living in reaction to stimuli from the environment, constantly converting them into causes of stress. Research has shown that most people don’t anticipate stress. Instead, they only cope with it. If you made a list of the things that really bug you, you could certainly re-engineer what you’re doing, or the way you’re doing it, so that things would run more smoothly up front. This is called a fix-it-forever system: creating an ergonomic design for your life by eradicating the little things that cause stress.”


Jim Rohn

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“Either you run the day or the day runs you. Days are expensive. When you spend a day you have one less day to spend. So make sure you spend each one wisely.”

Safe to assume stress isn’t a wise choice!



Deepak Chopra

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Sometimes life’s everyday stressors can send you into a tailspin. But if you always let your emotions rule, your body won’t remember to calm down. A stressful situation is always linked to an emotion. And anything that happens in the mind has a consequence in the body. Feel that sensation in the body, and instead of reacting immediately, focus your attention there and breathe deeply, until the sensation dissipates. What you’re doing is breaking the reactive (conditioned) response. Just by feeling your body, you break that reactivity.”


Paul Blackburn

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During times of stress, become aware of what you’re feeling. If you’re feeling angry or frustrated, start to question your thoughts. What are you thinking about – is it the current situation or the possible consequences? If you catch yourself thinking about what you’re afraid might happen, you’re focusing on future things that may never occur. Let those thoughts go. They do not serve you. Bring yourself back to the present moment and simply deal with what’s in front of you without the added ‘stories’. Remind yourself that it’s always your choice as to how you react to an event.”


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 Dr. Wayne Dyer
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“Peace is the result of retraining your mind to process life as it is, rather than as you think it should be.”

In this context, doesn’t peace sound like it could be the opposite to stress?




Eckhart Tolle
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Tolle believes anxiety, tension and stress are caused by too much worrying about the future and not enough presence in the current moment. He says, “Stress is caused by being here but wanting to be there.”

In an interview with Oprah, he talks about the necessity of looking at a situation without labelling it and coming to accept things as they are.

He says, “You must say to yourself, ‘…this is where I am right now’ before you can look at the potential to effect change in that scenario. This is how it is. Then, a greater intelligence arises because you become present with what is.”

Oprah clarifies, “If you’re stuck in the mud, and you’re angry about being stuck in the mud, and you’re trying to resolve being stuck in the mud, from that point of anger, you will always remain stuck in the mud.”

Tolle agrees, “You have to remove yourself from the mud before you can move forward.”

Watch the full clip from the interview here:


Bill Clinton 

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Now here’s a guy who really knows what it means to be under pressure! He may not be an expert in the human potential field, but we think his experience probably qualifies him! This is what he says about it…

“Sometimes, when people are under stress, they hate to think, and it’s the time when they most need to.”




Dalai Lama

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The popular teacher explains how to move past stress and worry…

“One of the approaches that I personally find useful is to cultivate the thought: If the situation or problem is such that it can be remedied, then there is no need to worry about it. In other words, if there is a solution or a way out of the difficulty, you do not need to be overwhelmed by it. The appropriate action is to seek its solution. Then it is clearly more sensible to spend your energy focusing on the solution rather than worrying about the problem. Alternatively, if there is no solution, no possibility of resolution, then there is also no point in being worried about it, because you cannot do anything about it anyway. In that case, the sooner you accept this fact, the easier it will be for you. This formula, of course, implies directly confronting the problem and taking a realistic view. Otherwise you will be unable to find out whether or not there is a resolution to the problem.”

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