How To Resolve Confusion

What I find myself recommending more and more is time out.

Especially when people are confused about something in their lives. When they’re not sure what the next step forward is.

Take this fantastic couple who’ve been clients of mine for a while now. They’re a couple of pensioners and they’ve got a pile of cash they don’t know what to do with. So I suggested that if they could live on the pension and leave the pile of cash intact, then they could take their time in figuring out what to do with the money… and what to do with their lives.

So they bought a caravan and they’re moving around Australia.

Now that’s an extreme version of what I recommend to everybody…

And that is, where possible, get some time out and let the time tell you what the next thing in your life is.

What most of us do is instead is just rush headfirst from one thing to the next.


So if you’ve got any leave owing to you, some holidays up your sleeve, then I recommend taking some time out.

Take some time and allow yourself to find the answer.


The thing is, not enough people go and rent a caravan on the beach for a week. Living in a caravan for a week, living a very simple life. Just barbecues with fish straight out of the water. The secret is to keep the foods simple and keep the exercise intense. Walk up and down the beach all day – I don’t literally mean all day but do lots of walking – and lots of contemplating and give yourself lots of solitude and then allow the answers to emerge.


The problem is most of us can’t do that because we’ve got work and families and mortgage payments and other commitments that demand our time, energy and money.

And as a result I don’t see enough people plan introspective space.

But fortunately there are two ways to do it.

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The first is to do the sort of thing I’m talking about and that’s the idea of a week in a caravan on a beach. Of course if you prefer the country the beach is not much use to you. But the principle is the same. Whether you want to go up in the mountains or do a spiritual retreat or hang out at the beach, it doesn’t really matter.

Space is the answer.

And it’s important to fit it into your life because there are so many benefits.

But if that’s impossible (because of your circumstances) then it’s essential to create the space in your everyday life.


The real reason we moved to Queensland was because I’ve tried all my life to get up early and just haven’t been able to do it. Problem is I haven’t read a success story yet that didn’t involve people getting up early.

So we decided to make the break and get back to the water. Now I’m up at 5:30am and I get out on my stand-up paddleboard and go paddling for an hour and a half. And I go hard. I go really hard. (I go really hard because I want to exercise my body and treat it to being pushed because I know that when I push myself physically, I get all sorts of benefits out of it.)

After that I come home and have half an hour meditating.

Then breakfast.

That means I’ve got two solid hours to myself everyday. And that’s introspective time. It’s quiet, it’s full of solitude. Some days I might have company and when I do I always tell them ‘You can come, but don’t talk… just paddle, because I’m going out there to get that space’.

And I need it.

Of course what I’ve found now is that I’m springing out of bed at 5:30 AM in the morning full of energy. That’s something that has never previously happened in my life. And you could say that’s a tremendous vote for making life the way that you want it to be.

The thing is I didn’t know it was going to work. I suspected it was going to work and we had to invest money and the time to try it out and my family’s good enough to back me. But you don’t have to move a thousand kilometres like I did and get a place on the water.

You could actually just go for a walk every morning and get the solitude.

I know people for instance who go and sit in a church every morning. A property developer I know builds buildings that are 60 to 70 million dollars per go – he’s an incredibly busy bloke – and one day he said, ‘I’ve got no personal space.’

Now I know where he lives and I know where he works and I said to him, ‘Mate, you drive past this blue stone church. Why not stop in there?’ He thought that was the most genius idea he’s ever heard. And from that day on, he’s been doing that five times a week.

Because that’s his space.

That keeps him sane.

And that’s where he gets all his great ideas.

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The short answer to resolving confusion is to create this space in your life in one form or another. As a solid period where you get away for a week or two … or the shorter bit where you get a regular half hour in the morning, every morning.

It’s all about being still so you can allow the answers to emerge.