Why Are Expectations So Disappointing?

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So how do you balance the expectation to succeed with the disappointment that inevitably comes with having these expectations.

It’s another one of those great paradoxes.

Because essentially, without expectations, without a yearning, and without a desire we’re not going to do anything so we need to have personal goals and targets. And you wouldn’t have a personal goal or target if you weren’t expecting to reach it or wanting to reach it.

At the very bottom of things is this concept that you need to expect to succeed.

You need to get on with it.

You need to push yourself forward.

Certainly life without a challenge is a bit of a pain in the arse because nothing great ever got achieved inside a comfort zone so take all of that as read.

But really what we’re saying, though, is that at the same time expectations lead to disappointment.

What do I mean by that?

Well a classic example is the expectation that your partner is always going to love you, expecting that he or she is always going to turn up, expecting that he or she knows how you feel, expecting that he or she knows when to say, ‘I love you’… then that’s going to lead to disappointment. Because when you’re expecting something from a partner or from somebody else, the reason we say it leads to disappointment is because we expect them to be mind readers. How do they know what they’re supposed to do? How do they know what’s going to happen? How does the universe set itself up?

So what we are talking about is a paradox.

What I mean by that is it’s two things that are both true at the same time, but they’re apparently opposite.

When you stop and think about it, you’ll see that life is full of these paradoxes. And to be truly successful in life we’ve got to embrace both sides of the paradox. We’ve got to be able to move between one end to the other with ease and grace (and as quickly as possible – if you want to learn how to understand and work with these paradoxes, you can read more here >> http://theglobalsuccessacademy.com/universal-principles-of-success/).

So how do you balance it out?

How do you get to the balance point between expecting things to go the way that you want them to, but understanding that that might actually set you up for disappointment…

Because they’re probably not going to go that way.

And that’s because if there is a god, or a universe, or a some kind of overarching higher intelligence even if that’s our community intelligence, I’m probably going to get what I need, not what I want.

Expecting is sort of saying I want it to go like this.

If I want it to go like this I’m setting myself up for failure, so to speak.

So while you may want something to go a certain way, it’s also important to be detached from the outcome. That if it doesn’t go the way you expect, the way you want, maybe that’s because it’s not what you need.