How To Keep Moving Forward When The Roadblocks Turn Up

So how do you keep going when the roadblocks turn up?

Depending on what the roadblocks are, we have to recognise them as the thing that we have to get over, to live life at the next highest level. They are the next challenge/lesson.

TIP: If your roadblocks test your patience and they keep coming up, it’s because that’s the thing you need to learn.

 

For many of us we kind of look at it and go, “You know what, I’m going to be very uncomfortable jumping over this roadblock. Maybe I’ll just kind of sit back and rest for a while.”

My big thing is that comfort is the enemy of achievement.

As roadblocks are concerned, the thing that we fight most of all is:

I can have a go at this…

vs

I could just kind of rest and recuperate and see if it goes away.

Part of the process is that metaphysically we are being tested as to whether we really want to do this or not.

So the roadblocks keep appearing…

You start something you’ve got to do, and then you find you can’t do it because of this, that, and the other, or because you’ve got to learn something new. And then you find that something doesn’t work and you need to learn something else.

And it stops you from getting to that next step.

Take a little business we’ve been building. We’ve been building it for 18 months, and you know how many next steps we run into?

Hundreds of them.

Hundreds of the bastards!

And I think that’s the real question:

How do you maintain motivation when it seems like it’s a never-ending theme… there’s always one more difficulty, one more thing?

(And you begin to wonder ‘How many hurdles do I have to jump over to make it actually happen?’)

 

 

I think the real question boils down to how much you want it and how much you actually allow yourself to be emotionally involved in your progress.

We know that if we tell a 10-year-old to practise a piano every afternoon for an hour, and then if we could get the 10-year-old to do their practise five afternoons a week and for an hour on Saturday – and we knew that they were doing their practise – then we wouldn’t even have to listen. We would just know that in a couple of years they’re going to be a genius on the piano.

And that’s simply because we’ve removed the emotion from it.

(RELATED: How To Turn Procrastination Into Motivation)

One of our spectacularly successful clients was a girl who’s a mother of four and worked part time taking aerobics classes at the gym. She’d do one or two of them per day AND she got herself a law degree at the same time as holding down some other part time job as well.

One day we asked her ‘How do you get it all done?”

She said, “You have to take the emotion out of it.”

You don’t make a new decision every day about whether you’re going to the gym. When you wake up in the morning you don’t say to yourself, “Am I going to the gym?”

When you wake up in the morning you put your gym gear on, and you just go.

And you decide whether you feel like it or not later.

Because if you allow yourself to make the decision based on how you feel, then on the majority of occasions you’ll decide, “I’ll do that tomorrow,” and that’s the basis of most people never really cracking it.

Having a non-negotiable routine really helps. And while you might not always progress as much as you want, it keeps you moving in the right direction.

If we take the piano playing example, then I’m sure that our 10-year-old is not going to feel like they’re making progress every day, but over a period of time it’s all going to add up.

(And if you use that example for weight loss, when we go on a diet, we don’t lose the same amount of weight every day even though we’re being pretty strict and pretty careful. Some days you have a big drop, some days you don’t have a drop at all. Some days you might actually put some weight on, which is disappointing to most people.)

The problem is we let our motivation be attached to the result instead of saying to ourselves, “This is my time for doing my xyz” and just getting on with it.

Some days you get massive progress, and other days you don’t.

But over time, it all adds up.

TIP: For those of you who are working on building something yourself, if you’re working by yourself it’s the kiss of death to keep working by yourself, and I’d recommend you find other people who are trying to build something, and you meet down at the local library or in the park or whatever. You don’t meet to socialise. You meet to formalise the work process and get on with it. You can share a little bit of your frustrations and your victories and those kinds of things. The purpose of it is actually to get you to go there.

When you look back at the success you’ve achieved for yourself, then everybody will say you were lucky. But success actually revolves around the discipline to keep on plodding away, keep on bashing your head against the brick wall and understanding that we don’t have to actually measure success every day.

Instead, ask yourself:

‘Did I get some more done today?’

‘Did I inch my way forward?’

Did we keep creeping forward or did we give up because we were dependent on the thing encouraging us rather than finding the motivation from within…